- Job Search Tip of the Week, by Brian Krueger, author of "College Grad Job Hunter," the #1 book for entry level job search:
"How to Never Be Nervous Again"
If even the thought of interviewing makes you nervous, it's
important to get that emotion under control. The interview is your
opportunity to be at your best. If you allow nervousness to control
your presentation (or lack thereof), your image may be forever
shrouded in the cloud of nervousness that will block the
interviewer's total view of who you are.
Why do we get nervous? Because of the unknown. We are seeking
approval, but we are unsure of ourselves and how we will be
perceived. We are afraid we won't get approval, which makes us
nervous. And to compound the problem, our increasing nervousness
makes it even more difficult to gain that approval, thereby
compounding the basis for our fears. Uncontrolled, nervousness can
destroy our ability to effectively interview.
But it doesn't have to be that way. The following is a simple
technique you can apply to overcome your nervousness in any
interviewing situation. It is a technique that I personally use in
overcoming my own nervousness, and it will work equally well for you.
In my public speaking, I am often confronted by crowds of hundreds
and sometimes even thousands. Do I get nervous? You bet. Every
time. Is anyone aware of my nervousness? Not unless they see me in
the few minutes before I go on stage, before I have successfully
applied the Rowboat Technique. This simple technique allows me to
overcome my fears and successfully speak before thousands of people
I have never met before. And it will help you in meeting with and
speaking to people you have never met before in the interviewing
situation.
The Rowboat Technique is a simple contraction of the abdomen in
combination with rhythmic breathing that allows you to fully
overcome your nervousness in any situation. To understand how to
use this technique, sit forward in a chair, arms outstretched, as
if you are grabbing oars in a rowboat. Take a deep breath, then
slowly pull back your arms and contract the abdominal muscle just
below the rib cage. As you continue to let out air, roll the
contraction of the muscle downward, just above your pelvic region,
centering on your navel. Keep your muscles tight until all of the
air has been expelled. Count to three (don't breathe in yet!), then
inhale deeply. Repeat this simple process two or three times and
you will find that your body is completely relaxed.
To better understand the Rowboat Technique, stop by the gym and sit
down at one of the rowing machines. You will gain a firsthand feel
for the relaxation brought on by the series of muscle contractions
and deep breathing that comes naturally during this type of workout.
So how does this apply with interviewing? Obviously, you don't want
to go through all the visual animations in front of the
interviewer, but you can still effectively apply this technique.
Simply take in a deep breath through your nose, then contract your
abdominal muscles in the "top to bottom roll" discussed above as
you slowly exhale through slightly parted lips. Hold it at the
bottom, take in a deep breath, and you are ready to go. If you are
still nervous, simply repeat the technique one or two more times.
Even if you are not nervous at the time, it is always a good idea
to use this technique as you wait to meet with your interviewer.
During the interview, you can use it while the interviewer is
speaking to keep potential nervousness in check.
What if you are overcome by nervousness while answering a question?
Simply pause, take a deep breath, exhale and contract, then
continue. Your nervousness will be noticeable to the interviewer
(due to the pause in your answer), but the five-second drill will
also show that you are seeking to control your nervousness. If you
are able to successfully overcome, I will never hold that pause
against you. I will admire your self-control and the positive,
proactive action you took to put the interview back on a successful
track.
This technique is virtually unnoticeable to anyone nearby. I make
it a habit to apply this technique several times before going on
stage, whether I am feeling nervous or not. You could be seated
next to me and be completely unaware of what I am doing. Yet I will
effectively put away all my nervousness and prepare myself for a
dynamic presentation. You can do the same in preparation for your
interview.
Why does it work? Very simply, the muscle contractions prevent the
introduction of chemical imbalances into your system that can cause
nervousness. The deep breathing helps to dissipate any chemicals
that have already been released. It forces the body to prepare
physically for the upcoming task. The body begins to focus on
producing the positive endorphins needed for the anticipated
"rowing" ahead. And this exercise will give your mind the
opportunity to focus positively on the actual task of interviewing.
You can use this technique in a variety of circumstances in which
you need to focus your mind and body: overcoming anxiety, anger,
fright, tension, nausea--even a simple case of stomach butterflies.
You can overcome interviewing nervousness, and much more, just by
using this simple technique. If you haven't already done so, give
it a try right now!
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