The Handshake Matching Technique

Apply the same principle of the Personality Matching Technique to handshakes. Dont get confused by the too hard or too soft handshake psychology baloney. There is no absolute when it comes to handshakes because the effectiveness of the handshake is defined by the recipient. So is the handshake unimportant? No. But it would be wrong to attempt to come up with the perfect handshake. There is no such thing, since each person receiving your handshake has their own definition of perfection. Its relative to the person who has your fingers in their grasp. Therefore, a truly effective handshake is going to be a mirror of the handshake being offered. Match the persons handshake the same as you would their voice or posture.

While personality matching is dynamic and takes place over an extended period of time, the handshake lasts just one to two seconds. So how do you adjust? Use a medium-grip handshake, placing your hand so that the soft skin between your thumb and forefinger comes in contact with the same location on the recipients hand. Then be prepared to squeeze down on the gorilla or lighten up on the softie, as necessary. Dont get into a wrestling contest. Again, just as in personality matching, you dont have to match the extremes. Just move to that end of your handshake range. Practice a few times with a friend. Or better yet, practice with a loved one.